Lets talk volume for a hot second with these facts:
Bumble had a reported 22 million users as of November 2017, and 27 million downloads as of February 2018.
OKCupid– 50 million registered since 2004 (https://mashable.com/review/okcupid-dating-review/)
Match.com Study– Today, more than half of U.S. singles have tried online dating or dating apps. In fact, in 2017, the internet was the #1 place where singles met their last first date. (http://match.mediaroom.com/2018-02-01-Singles-in-America-Match-Releases-Largest-Study-on-U-S-Single-Population-for-Eighth-Year)
Ok, now that we get the reality of online dating and understand that there are millions of other singles online can either be a refreshing feeling or make you feel like a needle in a hay stack. Let’s be optimistic and say that its refreshing knowing that A. you are not alone in your journey to find love and B. umm the odds of you finding someone look really good. But, how do you stand out in sea of singles?
Pictures: Super obvious right, like picking pictures that show off your personality. But seriously, did you have fun at a football game recently, post it? Got a great action shot of you dancing at a wedding, post it! Post one that’s full length in an outfit you love, that way there are no surprises if you were to ever meet someone in person. Finally, pick ones where you are smiling, and lay off too many filters because nobody likes a pouty puppy face.
Be Specific: OMG you like to travel?! You and everyone else on the planet. OMG you love to try new restaurants…cool, you and everyone else in Chicago. WHERE did you go? WHY was it awesome? What did you order at the new restaurant, do you recommend it? Not only should you be specific about your interests but about what you’re doing online dating. If you are looking for something casual, say it. If you are looking for a “long-term relationship” say it. How frustrating to get to chatting with someone to only figure out you are not looking for the same thing. Be honest upfront, plus it will help create a real conversation and get past the surface level crap.
Phone a friend: Have someone who knows you and that you trust check out your profile. I said it in last weeks post, dating is like sales. And, selling yourself is THE hardest concept. You need someone to tell you, girl this picture is 5 years old, GTFOH with that. Or, maybe they will catch something simple like a typo in your description that could keep Mr. Wonderful from swiping right on ya.
Your profile IS your conversation starter. So, if you don’t really say anything about yourself, or give someone the opportunity to “follow up” with a question from your description, less people will be interested in swiping right because you look boring as hell. What are you excited about? What hobby do you have?
Bad Example: I love spending time with my friends and just hanging out. I am looking for someone who is honest, fun and doesn’t take life too seriously. Oh you like to spend time with your friends?? Duh, we all enjoy that. What do you do when you “hang out”? What is “fun” for you? ….you see, too general and common.
Good Example: I attend a boxing class 4-5 days a week because I love to bake and i’m currently mastering cheesecake. I have been super focused on my career and haven’t seriously dated in a while but looking to find the guy who can pull me out of work mode and who I can enjoy a slice with. Currently failing at running my fantasy football league at work and i’m open to some help, haha I don’t like losing. With this example you are not only showing off your personality, but you’re honest with what you are looking for and giving the guys checking you out so many ways to start a conversation.
I hope this helps and you immediately go and give your profile a quick little health check and even a makeover if necessary. Remember, have fun and just be yourself.
Next week, I’m sharing what the MEN actually think of online dating and what they are looking for as they swipe away.
xoxo
Lyss
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