3 Little Known Ways You Know He’s the One

SURPRISE! If you didn’t know, the word on the street is true, I am officially a married woman! We are having a beautiful destination wedding later this summer and tied the knot (legally) before we embark on #idoround2 with our closest family and friends for our Mexico beach ceremony. Marriage IS the best feeling in the entire world, I couldn’t be happier…to the point where I have become THAT annoying new Mrs. and ya know what, I am enjoying every last second of it. #insertallthehastags

People told me (even when I didn’t ask) before meeting my husband (ya see, I drop the H word like a bad habit these days) that “i’ll know” the right guy when he comes along. You’ve heard it too,”it will happen when you least expect it crap. Ummm, how would know when the right guy was THE guy? I mean literally…how the hell was I supposed to tell some random ass dude was most definitely the one I was supposed to marry? Was there a sign? Magic? Jesus? Shooting star?

I am here to tell you, that yes, the stars do seem to align when the right man walks in but here are 3 ways I actually knew that I was #becomingMRSwiza

Our Priorities Aligned

When we met, I just completed by first Dale Carnegie certification and I was super jacked up on life and my career. He was excited telling me about his teaching career and just about to start up another summer football camp. We were both busy, done some travel and valued our time with family and friends. All the major themes that needed to align when dating did. I’m talking, our view on money, religion, politics, even what we do when we’re bored. As someone who is incredibly driven and career focused- yet I still totally want the white picket fence scene- he supported both. In order to know for sure if all those major values aligned, I had to ask. Once I did, he very quickly became my world and I knew my life was changing for the better. Don’t be afraid to “go there” with your man, it is the only way to know if you’re going to wake up one day happy and supported or wake up one day wondering how the eff you married some dude living on another planet.

I Didn’t Want to Change Him

Not a thing. Not one little thing, even the annoying stuff he does today I wouldn’t change. I dated very very briefly a nice guy on paper (well he was nice in real life too but you get it) and every time this poor guy laughed I wanted to rip my ears off. I would think, maybe I can get over this, maybe I’ll learn to love it! I didn’t, and eventually we went our separate ways. My point at the expense of this poor guy is that the saying “people don’t change” or “who he is when you date is who he will be when your married” is TRUE. Now, I am not saying that people won’t change to better their lives or the lives of someone else…but do you want that? I mean really unless they are suffering from something super awful, do you really want them to change something about them that makes them who they are? I watched Portia tell Ellen on her 60th birthday that “it’s good to be loved, it’s profound to be understood”. That’s how marriage feels, that’s how marriage feels from the right man. Being accepted for who you are is what everyone deserves. Watch the clip here: Portia tells Ellen

I Felt So Good

I felt so good just being near him. Like I was encouraged, excited, joyful, emotionally expressive. Our romance happened so fast that it was actually hard to pinpoint the moment I knew I wanted to marry him. I asked him when he “knew” I was the woman he wanted to marry and he said the same thing, “I knew I loved you right away and I just felt good being around you”. Sometimes, you just know. I love his energy, his big heart, his ideas and sarcasm. I cant wait to get home to him, to do everything and nothing with him. BUT before my single ladies barf at our newlywed bliss, know that the root of this is trust. I trust him and therefore I know that I can be my total self around him and THAT feels so.damn.good. And for real, so fun! Are you able to fully trust the person your with?

Look, I don’t pretend to know it all when it comes to finding “the one”. I had lots of heartbreak and growth before I met my husband. I am also positive that this life will be hard on us and we will have to fight off the people and situations trying to break us over the years. What I do know is that these three things are true for me: our values aligned, I didn’t want to change him, and I trust him. I hope you are #becomingwiza about the situation you are in, and most importantly, that you love yourself and whatever stage of life you are. Waiting for the right guy? Don’t turn cold and cynical, focus on you boo. Waiting for the ring? I encourage you to have the tough conversation. Found the one? Go give him a smooch and a smack on the ass! 😉

xoxo,

Your wifed up, former cynical, & forever believer that you can have it all

PS: Get ready for our #idoround2 in Mexico! Check out our venue!